RSVP Strategy

Why Nobody RSVPs Anymore (And How to Fix It)

They aren't ignoring you. They just forgot. Here is how to get an answer without being annoying.

Published June 11, 2025 • 5 min read
Video by Agung Pandit Wiguna via Pexels

Key Takeaways

  • People don't ghost on purpose; they just procrastinate.
  • Don't guilt-trip them. Give them a reason to reply *now*.
  • Use the "Soft Nudge" followed by the "Hard Deadline."
  • Track everything in LOMAevents so you don't accidentally text the same person twice.

The "Maybe" Problem

You send an invite. You see they opened it. And then... nothing. It's frustrating. But usually, it's not personal. They saw it while walking the dog, thought "I'll check my calendar later," and then life happened.

The 3-Step Nudge Strategy

  1. The Invite: Keep it simple. "Party at my place. Tacos. 7 PM."
  2. The Soft Nudge (5 days later): "Hey! Just finalizing the taco order. Let me know if you can make it so I don't under-order guacamole." (See what we did there? We made it about the *food*, not their attendance.)
  3. The Hard Deadline (2 days before): "Last call! I'm sending the final numbers to the caterer tomorrow morning. If I don't hear back, I'll assume you can't make it (and I'll miss you!)."

Stop Using Spreadsheets

Tracking who said "yes," "no," or "maybe" in a spreadsheet is a nightmare. You will make mistakes.

How LOMAevents Fixes This

Pro Tip: If someone still hasn't replied after the Hard Deadline, mark them as "No" in the app. If they show up, you can squeeze them in, but don't stress about them in your planning.

Your Next Action

Ditch the spreadsheet. Set up your guest list in LOMAevents and let us handle the counting.

Manage Your Guest List →